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The Uncommon Workout That Can Save Your Marriage

Truth time. Most of you lie. You keep saying you don’t have time. In fact, when it comes to fitness, family, and faith, this is the number one excuse we hear. Well if fitness, family, and faith are the three most important things in your life, and you don’t have time for them, then today’s main question is: What The Heck Are You Doing With Your Time?!

Reality check. It’s time to do a time check.

I’m guilty. I used to try to lie to myself too and still sometimes do.  So I want to share a tactic I use to get myself out of this demobilizing trap.

I want to challenge you today to do my Uncommon Workout: The Triple AAA Time Inventory:

  1. Become AWARE of how you use your time by taking a time inventory.
  2. ACCEPT responsibility for how you’re using your time.
  3. AWAKEN/TAKE ACTION to change how you use your time so you can become more effective and efficient, especially in regards to the investment into your marriage.

Triple AAA Time Inventory 3 Steps

Step 1: Awareness

Take a few minutes to REFLECT on how you use your time daily. How much do you work? How much down-time do you have? How do you fill it? What do you do with your mornings? Your evenings? What’s on your to-do list? What do you put on your schedule? What should be on your schedule?

So often we spew out the initial reaction of “I don’t have time!” before we stop and think about what we’re really saying. You don’t have time but you watch a television series every night. You don’t have time but you went out drinking with your buddies. You don’t have time but you watched three football games over the weekend. Really, you don’t have time?

Step 2: Accept

What we need to do is STOP and CATCH ourselves and say, “I do have time. I just choose to use it for other things right now, like…”

There’s a saying that goes, “Show me your to-do list, your bank account, and your time inventory, and I’ll show you what you value and have time for.”

Step 3: Awaken/Take Action

Then you have to make a decision to change your daily activities so that your behaviors match your words and goals. What do you really value? How bad do you want it? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get there?

A few years ago I was talking with a Christian brother about my marriage struggles. He shared that one of the most important things to institute in a marriage is date nights. Here’s how the conversation went.

Me: “I don’t have time.”

My Christian brother: “What do you mean you don’t have time? You don’t have time for your marriage?”

Me: “No. We have two small kids. I’m trying to build my business. I work all the time. I can barely get my workouts in. When am I supposed to find time?”

My Christian brother: “So what you’re telling me is you don’t care about your marriage?”

Me: “Yes I do.”

My Christian brother: “Then why would you schedule everything else before quality time with your wife?” Your priorities are messed up. And if you’re telling me you can’t make date nights mandatory, then you’re telling me you don’t value your marriage.”

It was a major gut check and I’ll be honest, my wife and I still catch ourselves saying we don’t have time for date nights to this day. That’s when we have to re-evaluate our time inventory and figure out how to make breathing room. It’s not always ideal and it takes some creativity. But if we just keep using the excuse that we don’t have time, then we aren’t accepting responsibility for how we use our time. And that is never healthy nor productive.

Don’t take my word for it. Take a time inventory today. Accept responsibility for how you use your time and make a choice to change it. I dare you.

And it may just be an absolute game-changer for you and everyone in your life.

#ItsNotAboutUs

Coach Theo

 

 

 

Love Her Like The First Day, Dare 18

I still remember our first real date together. We were at Olive Garden eating those ridiculously good breadsticks. I wanted to know everything about Amber.  Like an investigative reporter, I interrogated her with questions about her entire life. I was so into her and wanted to know everything about her past, present, and future.

We all do this when we first meet, trying to discover if they’re the right one. Then if you’re like us, after that 18 month infatuation period ended, comfort took over. Plans, personal dreams, work, and other distractions got into the way. Slowly we started taking each other for granted. Careers squeezed in the way. Kids drew us so close yet so far apart. Before we knew it, our marriage was merely on auto pilot.

In Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas talks about levels of marriage. Here’s my paraphrase on them.

Levels Of Marriage:

  1. You’re done and ready to walk away.
  2. You’re resentful towards each other and blame each other for “personal dissatisfaction and lack of excitement.”
  3. You simply “get along.”
  4. You have depth and “pursue a deeper meaning, a spiritual truth hidden in the enforced intimacy of the marital situation.”

If you want to be in level four and continually pursue depth, you need to take initiative and be proactive in your marriage. So what if your relationship is good now. It can always get better. Jesus doesn’t want you to be luke-warm (Rev 3:16). The results of tomorrow are affected by the work you put in today. And if one day your marriage falls apart, it’s because of what you didn’t do yesterday.

Just like when you train to get in great shape, it doesn’t stop. You don’t just get to a point where you achieve your goals and can stop working out and still enhance your results. It’s a lifetime process and what you learn from training is that you can always polish things up, fine tune, and get better.

Our marriages are no different. Like training, they require the same intention, investment, and effort. If we want stronger and more conditioned marriages that can outlast adversity, we can’t settle for maintenance mode.

We’re halfway through the Love Dare Challenge and this book is continuing to change our lives daily. Going back to Day 18, the point is to get to know your spouse better, just like the first day you met them. Here are three steps outlined in this chapter:

  • Ask questions. The bible says “The ear of the wise seeks knowledge. (Proverbs 18:15) Love takes the initiative to begin conversations.
  • Listen. “A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in revealing his own mind” (Provers 18:2) Hear your spouse, don’t just tell them what you think.
  • Ask God for discernment. “The Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding” (Proverbs 2:6). Men and women are different and it’s hard to understand each other. God can show you what you need in order to love your spouse better.

Don’t just settle for a level one, two, or three marriage. Be proactive and initiate love. Whip up some homemade breadsticks and sit down with your spouse to get to know her better, and Love her like the first day you met her.

Don’t take my word for it. I dare you to try it yourself. And it may just be an absolute game-changer for you and everyone in your life.

Coach Theo

How One Girl Gave Back And It Keeps On Giving

Last year Brooke Berkowitz (9 yrs old at the time) chose to use the $400 she won from our Kids FMU Gives Back Project to do random acts of kindness throughout the community. She completed a lot of RAK’s! Below are some of her snapshots with captions of her kindness.

The Kids FMU Gives Back Project is a contest we launch every year during Thanksgiving. We open the contest to three hundred FMU kid members to submit an idea about what they would do with $400 to give back. Last year, thanks to the generosity of some of our other members, we were able to award four individuals with $400 each.

Brook chose to use her funds for multiple Random Acts of Kindness, some planned, some not. If she was at the store or restaurant with her family, she would intentionally look for opportunities to surprise a stranger with a RAK. I think we were all surprised to see how much she could spread this money around.

Here’s what’s really cool about Brooke’s story though. Even after using her last few dollars from her $400 earnings, she continues to feel the desire to keep giving back. Not only did her generosity hopefully touch the hearts of those she impacted and inspire them to pay it forward also, but she’s still leading her heart to keep thinking about ways to give back, no matter how big or small. And that’s the transformation and contagiousness that we really love to see.

This contest brings awareness to our kids to think about others. And like I always say, they want to do it. We, as adults, just have to give them the opportunity to do it.

This year, we decided that we’re going to follow Brooke’s lead. The child who receives the $400 will also be challenged to use it the same way Brooke did; to spread it out and give back to many people, in multiple ways.

Next week, kids will be able to enter our drawing for a chance to take on the RAK challenge. The winner(s) of the $400 will be announced on Thanksgiving morning at our Adult Turkey Burn Workout. Proceeds from our Adult Turkey Burn are what make our Kids FMU Gives Back Project possible.

It takes a lot of courage to do something nice for complete strangers. We’re proud of Brooke for being so thoughtful and determined and for setting a solid example for all of us to follow. Check out some of her RAK’s below!

It’s not about us. But it starts with us.

God bless,

Coach Theo

Saving Your Marriage, Dare 2

In Dare 1 we talked about how Marriage IS Training. And once you start to view the purpose of marriage differently, you’ll start to overcome challenges with better intentions and love towards one another.

Read Dare 1 Here

Today we’re talking about Sacrificial Service.

Sacrificial Service

Like a full-sized mirror, marriage shows us how selfish we are. Unlike any other relationship, it points out all of our deep embedded character flaws. When Amber and I went through some bad phases in our marriage, I used to tell her that she was the only one that could pull the anger out of me and make me look so hateful. Instead of accepting responsibility for the nature of my heart, I pointed the finger at her as if she controlled my reactions (insert face palm emoji here).

During our vows we all agreed that we would be there “for better or for worse,” “through sickness and in health,” “til death do us part.” But then we left the altar and things got real and we almost instantly forgot the words that just came out of our mouth.

Are you like me when you go to a wedding? I have a hard time sitting through them. Sometimes I want to stop the bride and groom before they walk down the aisle and yell “Wait, before you say I-do, has anyone explained how hard this is going to be when reality hits?!” Marriages are not fairy tales. They’re challenges. And you won’t enjoy the fruit without constant work and effort invested into them.

Loving and serving each other is easy when things are easy. It was easy when we didn’t have kids to take care of, when we didn’t work full-time, or when our workload wasn’t so much. But that’s when God wants us to serve even more, when things are hard, challenging, and exhausting.

When we come home from a long day of work, or a long day of managing our chaotic family life, and we don’t have any more energy to muster up, that’s when He wants us to ramp up our game even more.  When I’m too tired to do the dishes, that’s when I’m supposed to do them. When I’m too busy to change the light bulb that ends up only taking three seconds to change anyways, that’s when I need to suck it up and change it.

Sacrificial service is knowing that there’s always more to do. Our measurement of doing enough is not accurate in God’s eyes. Our work is never enough.

“The very definition of the word  sacrifice means that sacrifice isn’t sacrifice unless it costs us something: so men, it’s a fair question to ask, “How have I loved my wife in the past two or three weeks in such a way that it has cost me something-vocationally, financially, and with my hobbies, time, and comfort?” If we can’t come up with something, we’re not loving like the Bible calls husbands to love in Ephesians 5:25.” (Sacred Marriage, Pg. 170)

Dare 2

“It is difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness. First.

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness (Love Dare Day 2).”

It goes both ways in a marriage. Husbands and wives shouldn’t expect to be served. Both however should expect to serve. “Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matt 20:28)

Don’t take my word for it.  I dare you to try it yourself. And it may just be an absolute game-changer for you and everyone in your life.

#ItsNotAboutUs

Coach Theo

Saving Your Marriage, Dare 1

Are you going through a difficult time in your marriage right now? Are you feeling like there’s no way out? Are you talking about divorce, separation, moving out, giving up, ‘hating’ each other?

Amber and I have to speak out.

We’re seeing too many marriages fall apart around us.

Do you think we’re perfect? Do you know that we’ve almost divorced multiple times? Do you realize there are times when we ‘hate’ each other?

Statistics say about 50% of marriages fail. That statistic grows for married couples who run businesses together, to 90%.

Even though FMU is a mission and ministry in our eyes, there’s no doubt at times it can be extremely straining on our relationship. We fight hard to preserve this marriage and if we didn’t have God as our center point, we would lose the fight too.

Let me first say this, no one knows your situation but you. We are not judging you or your decisions. We are also not talking about extreme cases of abuse, addiction, or adultery. But, I personally know couples that have made it through these extreme situations. So with God on your side, I wouldn’t count yourselves out just yet.

Anyways, we simply want to share some things we have learned the hard way. My viewpoint on marriage has changed drastically even just recently, as I’ve personally had to work through many things in my own mind to try to get this right.

You’ll be seeing Amber and me talk out loud about marriages more. Our hope is that something we say may hit someone right when they need it most. For now, here is one of our major takeaways that is giving us a whole new perspective on marriage. And it’s helping us see each other and treat each other the way God wants us to.

Marriage Is Training

Think about this phrase, Marriage Is Training. This phrase in itself changes your entire outlook on marriage. No longer is a good marriage something that just happens, but now something you work towards, always. The process never stops. And just like training to be healthy physically, your marriage will always require hard work, dedication, discipline, and initiative to make it better.

Marriages are difficult. But have you ever thought that a difficult marriage can prepare you for greatness? Or that it can be a training grounds to build perseverance and resiliency? When you want to get in the best shape of your life, you don’t choose an easy workout. An easy workout doesn’t challenge you to get stronger and more conditioned. Without some strain, without exertion, there is no growth.

I’m starting to see that the purpose of marriage is to do much more than to make us happy. It’s to make us Holy. We have to unlearn the teachings of Hollywood drama and fairy tale endings and see marriage through the eyes of our Beholder. God uses the difficulty and challenges of marriage to push us to become selfless, rely on Him more, become more like Him, and be an example for Him.

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.” (2 Cor 4:17)

This isn’t easy and takes full focus, pro-activity, and grueling practice daily. Like a workout, the strain, exertion, and workout alone aren’t what enhance your performance. The active process of how you respond with patience, humility, and tenacity are what produce growth.

When you go through challenges in your marriage, just enduring or ‘getting through the workout’ doesn’t take you to the next level. You have to actively respond with patience, compassion, compromise, understanding, and grace. It’s the major relationship in your life that requires you to become more like Jesus. And if your wife was asked, would she say she was married to Him?

“Physical training is good, but training for godliness is much better, promising benefits in this life and in the life to come.” (1 Tim 4:8)

Maybe you’re in a difficult marriage right now.

Maybe you think your spouse is a terrible person and there’s no way you’ll ever love them the same again.

Maybe you have every reason to leave them.

I just want to encourage you that it’s never too late and you’re never too far gone.

I know how pride, selfishness, and jealousy work. I also know the powerful force against you. Just staying married, let alone having a strong marriage, can be evangelical. And the enemy hates that. He’s latching onto your back trying to bring you down at all costs. You’re not fighting against your spouse. You’re fighting against a thief that is trying to steal, kill, and destroy. (John 10:10)

But I know an even more powerful force that can take him down. Bringing, keeping, and prioritizing God into your life is the one thing that will change everything.

Amber and I are going through the Love Dare challenge with our life group right now. I encourage you to pick up the book and take the challenge with us. We’ll be back weekly with action steps that we’re taking to invest into our marriage.

Dare 1 is to “demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.” (The Love Dare, Page 4)

“Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.” (James 1:19)

Think it’s easy? Or think it won’t work? Don’t take my word for it. Try it. I dare you.

And it might just be an absolute game-changer for you and everyone in your life.

#ItsNotAboutUs,

Coach Theo

Resources: Fireproof Movie, Love Dare Book, Sacred Marriage Book, Love Works Ministry, Sacred Vows Movie

 

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Is Jesus Real? Part 3

Disclaimer: I copied and pasted many lines straight from Lee Strobel’s book, The Case For Christ. I didn’t want to take away from the story and distract the reader with multiple citations and references. Therefore, I simply put the page number in parentheses right after each sentence, quote, or phrase that I took from his book. Please read the preface in the full PDF version.

Is Jesus Real PDF

Read Part 1 Here

Read Part 2 Here

PART 3

 

But if the bible was written by man, how can we believe everything in it?

 

“Where did that come from?”

“I don’t know. I’m just thinking.”

The bible was indeed written by men, but it was inspired by God. Do you know how it all came together? It’s incredible and almost unbelievable. Stories and letters that make up the bible today were found in all different parts of those early countries, from all different people completely unrelated to each other, and sometimes hundreds and hundreds of years apart.

You can trust that it’s real based on the reliability of eyewitness testimonies, like the four Gospels. The four Gospels are Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Most of these guys didn’t even know each other.

Three of them were unlikely characters too. No one would have had motivation to lie by claiming these guys wrote the gospels. Mark and Luke weren’t even among the twelve disciples. Matthew was, but he was a hated tax collector. John was the only one that was extremely prominent. He wasn’t just one of the disciples, but one of Jesus’ inner three, along with James and Peter. (Page 23)

These guys worked hard to preserve Jesus’ teachings and miracles. It wasn’t like it is today. They didn’t have the technology to save information. They had to memorize stories and facts exactly as they happened. It was common practice and extremely hard work.

But remember, they had nothing to gain except criticism. They certainly had nothing to gain financially. If anything, this would have provided pressure to keep quiet, deny Jesus, to downplay him, even to forget they ever met him—yet because of their integrity, they proclaimed what they saw, even when it meant suffering and death. (48)

We can be assured that the events they recorded are based on either direct or indirect eyewitness testimony. (25) It’s significant to note the consistency of their accounts too. There is enough discrepancy to show that there could have been no previous concert among them; and at the same time such substantial agreement as to show that they were all independent narrators of the same great transaction. No one can discount them or disprove them. (46)

“Has anyone proved the bible wrong?”

Out of all the discoveries over time and the scientists and archaeologists that have lived to disprove the bible, it still stands the test of time. No one can disprove it. The bible remains as the number one selling book each year for a reason. Over 2,000 years later Jesus continues to save people’s lives. No one in history has ever had this powerful of an influence.

“What do you mean they were inspired by God?”

There are times when you can say things you never thought you could say. You could write things you never thought you could write. You can do things you never thought you can do. Something is guiding you. It’s divine intervention.

God used regular people and sometimes the people you would least expect. I have no doubt he used them to get these words on paper. It would be easy to believe in Him if he somehow scribed them on a tablet himself and left for others to find. He doesn’t want it to be easy. Following God isn’t. He wants serious candidates only. And serious candidates fight hard to discover Him, and share the good news of Him.

The church was very careful selecting which gospels made up the New Testament. They weren’t ‘gung-ho,’ sweeping in every last document that happened to have anything about Jesus in it. This shows deliberation and careful analysis. (69)

The New Testament was reliably preserved. Benjamin Warfield put it this way, “If we compare the present state of the New Testament text with that of any other ancient writing, we must declare it to be marvelously correct. Such has been the care with which the New Testament has been copied—a care which has doubtless grown out of true reverence for its holy words…The New Testament is unrivaled among ancient writings in the purity of its text as actually transmitted and kept in use.” (70)

Off subject but not, here’s another fun fact. The early biography accounts of Jesus started spreading within just a few years of His Resurrection, many believe 2-5 years. In comparison, the two earliest biographies of Alexander the Great were written more than four hundred years after Alexander’s death in 323 B.C., yet historians consider them to be generally trustworthy. (33)

“I know another fun fact dad.”

“What’s that?”

“The fact that when talking about dates we say B.C., before Christ, and A.D. We learned that in Latin it means “anno domini,” in the year of the Lord.”

“That is awesome Gio.”

I could see his eyes starting to fade.

“Alright. I’m starting to get sleepy now. I just don’t want people to lie to me when I grow up.”

They will. Sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally. You know how many things I learned in history class that were wrong or inaccurate? Later on in life I discovered that a lot of facts that we learned from textbooks weren’t necessarily facts.

People are people and they will misconstrued the truth. Books, videos, articles, stories, research, are all someone’s opinions. If it was created by humans, you have to constantly analyze the facts for yourself to decipher what’s truth and what’s not. That’s why we say things like listen to God’s word not the world’s.

“The world? What does that mean?”

You’ll hear this a lot in life. The world in a sense is all those who reject God and His ways. We are all sinful by nature. But Christians are supposed to break that cycle (1 John 5:4-5). Many people don’t, non-Christians and even Christians alike. If you look around at our society and witness how most people live, it’s selfish, self-destructive, hostile, and harmful to the environment and others.

You can’t think like the majority, you can’t act like the majority, and you can’t talk like them. You need to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and live self-controlled, upright and godly lives. (Titus 2:12). Your challenge in life will be to be in this world and not of it. (John 17:16)

I realized it was silent. Gio’s eyes were half closed. But I was rolling now. I had to finish this comment out.

There are not many absolute truths in life. If you jump, you’ll come back down. The sun rises in the east and sets in the west. You’re born and then you die. Besides facts like this, many things aren’t so black and white. The only source of truth is the bible.

I used to not understand what that meant. But it basically means, people will come up with their own opinions, philosophies, and ways of doing things. The world will create all types of corrupt ideologies, messages, and morality that can persuade your mindset. But there is only one true Way that will stick and will last when applied to your life. That’s God’s Word, the bible. It’s your blueprint. Always resort to that before anything else.

Gio’s breathing relaxed. It seemed like he was sleeping but then, he popped out one last question.

“But how will I know?”

You have to feel it. Sometimes things aren’t possible to put into words. No matter what you hear it won’t make sense until you feel it.

You now know the facts that Jesus was real. But if you really want to know, you have to feel Him. You have to have a relationship with him. You’ll start to feel His presence working in you and around you. Then you’ll know.

He was out cold. I’m not sure how much of the last statement he heard.

I pulled his sheets over him and finished with what I always tell him before bed.

“You’re an amazing kid Gio. You’ll do amazing things in life. God has big things planned for you. I’m proud of you and so is He.”

Interestingly, I was more awake now than before this conversation started. Since I couldn’t fall asleep, I decided to go downstairs and open up my computer.

That’s when I wrote this story.

Is Jesus Real PDF

Is Jesus Real? Part 2

Disclaimer: I copied and pasted many lines straight from Lee Strobel’s book, The Case For Christ. I didn’t want to take away from the story and distract the reader with multiple citations and references. Therefore, I simply put the page number in parentheses right after each sentence, quote, or phrase that I took from his book. Please read the preface in the full PDF version.

Is Jesus Real PDF

Read Part 1 Here

PART 2

Wonder if the roman soldier let him out?

“Man, how does your mind even think like that?”

“Well, you said he appeared to his disciples after he died. Maybe he didn’t die. Maybe the tomb guards just let him out?”

“Ok that’s it.” I sat up tall on top of his bed. I turned his night light back on. “You really want to go there don’t you? You promise you won’t get nightmares? I’m about to tell you some grim details.”

“Dad, you know that stuff doesn’t bother me.”

Ok, there’s two things you have to remember here. Number one, there’s no way Jesus physically survived the crucifixion itself. The roman soldiers were responsible for ensuring that their prisoners were dead. Their jobs and lives depended on it. The responsible soldier would be put to death themselves, so they had a huge incentive to make absolutely sure that each and every victim was dead when he was removed from the cross. (201)

They were cruel, heartless, worst of the worst individuals. They whipped Jesus and tortured him in the most inhumane way. Brace yourself, this is going to be hard to hear.

Jesus was in critical condition before he even got to the cross. The soldiers flogged him for hours. Roman floggings were extremely brutal. They used whips with metal balls woven into them. These balls ripped apart the flesh, exposing muscles and bones. A third-century historian by the name of Eusebius described flogging by saying, ‘The sufferer’s veins were laid bare, and the very muscles, sinews, and bowels of the victim were open to exposure.” (195)

He then had to carry the cross through all of this pain. This kind of beating would kill most people. The tremendous pain caused hypovolemic shock, meaning the person is suffering the effects of losing a large amount of blood. (196)

Jesus was in hypovolemic shock as he staggered up the road to the execution site at Calvary, carrying the horizontal beam of the cross. Finally Jesus collapsed and the Roman soldiers ordered Simon to carry the cross for him. (196)

The roman soldiers then used spikes that were 5-7 inches long and drove them into Jesus’ wrists. And it’s important to understand that the nail would go through the place where the median nerve runs. This is the largest nerve going out to the hand, and it would be crushed by the nail that was pounded into it. (197)

Did you ever get hit in the elbow on your funny bone? That’s actually another nerve called the ulna nerve. It’s so painful that some people pass out after having something called a vasovagal response.

Well, picture someone taking a pair of pliers and squeezing and crushing that nerve. That effect would be similar to what Jesus experienced. (197)

The pain was unbearable. They actually had to come up with another word to describe it. Did you know excruciating means, “out of the cross?” (198)

Nails were then driven into Jesus’ feet, through nerves that would again cause similar nerve pain.

His arms were outstretched so much that both his shoulders would have been dislocated.

But then, here’s what I really want you to remember, the cause of death.

Once a person is hanging in the vertical position, crucifixion is essentially an agonizingly slow death by asphyxiation. (198)

A person hanging on the cross would fight to get out of a slouched position, which basically puts the chest into an inhaled position. In order to exhale, Jesus would have to stand up to relax his muscles and breathe in. This would cause a lot of pain and tearing in his feet, and more ripping and tearing as his back rubs against the wooden cross. Eventually, exhaustion took over and Jesus wasn’t able to push up anymore to breathe. (198)

Eventually his breathing slowed down and he went into an irregular heartbeat. When his heart was beating erratically, Jesus would have known that he was at the moment of death, which is when he said, “Lord into your hands I commit my spirit.” (Luke 23:46) He then died of cardiac arrest. (199)

So you see, there’s no way Jesus made it off that cross alive. Let’s say somehow he did. Well, there was no way Jesus was getting out of that tomb in the condition that he was in, let alone running away from anybody.

Second, like I said before, the roman solider guarding that tomb would have never let him escape. So let’s say everyone agrees Jesus died but now his friends came to remove his body in an attempt to make it look like he was missing. Again, it’s not going to happen. The tomb guard’s life depended on it.

 

But wonder if they did get his body out?

Ha. Ok fine. Even if they did get Jesus’ body out, do you think an army of soldiers weren’t going to chase them down on horses and catch them, who were running on foot or donkeys? They knew what was at stake. If Jesus ends up missing, Christianity not only lives, it thrives. They would never let it happen under their watch.

But actually it did. And no one could explain how.

“So the tomb was really empty?”

“Yes. Everyone acknowledged it too. Nobody, not even the Roman authorities or Jewish leaders ever claimed that the tomb still contained Jesus’ body. They only came up with absurd stories to try to explain what happened.”

“Who found the tomb empty?”

“Mary and her friends.”

“Maybe Mary and her lady friends made up the story about Jesus being missing?”

Well, here’s a really important point you have to remember. At the time of Jesus, women were looked down upon. They were not privy to many things, especially religion. Jewish leaders didn’t even want them hearing the words they preached. The fact that the gospels report that women discovered the empty tomb bolsters the story’s authenticity. (Page 263)

Women’s testimony was regarded as so worthless that they weren’t even allowed to serve as legal witnesses in a Jewish court of law.  The fact that women are the first witness to an empty tomb is most plausibly explained by the reality that, like it or not, they were the discoverers of the empty tomb. This shows that the gospel writers faithfully recorded what happened, even if it was embarrassing. (218)

“How come all the Jewish people didn’t immediately convert?”

“How did you even think of asking me a question like that?”

“Well dad, Jesus was Jewish and a lot of the people he talked to and lived among were Jewish. If they all saw and heard about this happening, why do we still have Jewish people today?”

Well, a lot of Jewish people did convert. In fact, over ten thousand of them. Right, not all of them. But the social structures that gave Jews their national identity were extremely important to them. It would be hard to break from that culture. (250) Your family would disown you. Your life would be lost and perhaps threatened. Think about how hard it is for people to change. We see it all the time at the gym. People know exactly what they’re supposed to eat to be healthy. They know they need to workout to lose weight and be strong. How many actually do it? Change is hard.

So for ten thousand to convert just five weeks after Jesus is crucified, that’s HUGE. Think about if that happened today. That’s a powerful human being to convert that many people, that fast.

It’s not possible. Unless you’re the living God.

Continue To Part 3…

 

 

Is Jesus Real? Part 1

Download the full PDF Short Story Here: Is Jesus Real? Conversations With Gio

How would you answer when people tell your children that Jesus isn’t real?

What major historical event separates our faith from all the others?

Are you fully prepared to defend your faith?

What started out as writing cliff notes for my friends turned into this parable to my son.

Disclaimer: I copied and pasted many lines straight from Lee Strobel’s book, The Case For Christ. I didn’t want to take away from the story and distract the reader with multiple citations and references. Therefore, I simply put the page number in parentheses right after each sentence, quote, or phrase that I took from his book. Please read the preface in the PDF version linked above.

 

Part 1

Wonder if people just made him up?

Fall was approaching, yet even though it was late September, it was still a hot summer night. Kneeling by his bedside feeling the cool air from the ceiling fan, Gio and I began to talk. First about his Captain Underpants comic book that he just drew, then about his next birthday party that he wanted to have, then to the deep stuff about whether or not Jesus was real.

He has always done this since he was little. Gio would ask super tough questions right before he went to bed. I remember one time, at about three years old, he asked how to get to heaven. And then if he could go there soon. “Will God drop down a ladder so I can climb through the clouds?”

So I shouldn’t be surprised. He’s seven years old now. He’s thinking about stuff even more. Even though I’m extremely tired and just want to crawl to my bed, I can’t let this question pass. I need to answer it.

“Daddy, wonder if people just made him up?”

“Who, Jesus?”

“Yea. My friend said his friend said he’s just make-believe.”

Well, he’s definitely not made up. Historical facts prove it. Even non-Christian historians validate that he existed and that what he did—how he lived and died—really did happen. There’s no doubt about that.

You’ll have to be careful about listening to what others say. Most of the time they just spew out what someone else told them. They’re essentially giving you opinions based on no solid ground. Do your research. Find your facts before you claim your beliefs are right. Among the intelligent, educated, well-known scholars and historians out there, the question is not “did Jesus exist?” The only question is, “was He a man or the Messiah?”

“Alright it’s getting late buddy, time for bed.”

“But dad, wait.”

What makes the difference? How do we know?

“Oh boy. Do we really need to go there right now? Ok, let me do this fast.”

The main differentiating factor that separates Jesus from any other religion is the Resurrection. No other religions consist of a God who resurrected himself. Well, if they did, they didn’t pop up until after the New Testament, which means they copied from the story of Jesus, not the other way around.

Regardless, of all the false prophets out there who claimed to be the living God, once they physically died, so did their religious following. When Jesus died and rose again, His enormous following just began. It was the end, but it was just the beginning. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 15:17 that the Resurrection is the very linchpin of the Christian faith: “If Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile. You are still in your sins.” (206)

When Jesus was crucified even his disciples at first got nervous that this was all just a hoax. Then Jesus appeared to them after his death. He did what He said he was going to do and everything He preached and claimed became REAL. In fact, He appeared to many people after His death:

  • To Mary Magdalene, in John 20:10-18
  • To the other women, in Matthew 28:8-10
  • To Cleopas and another disciple on the road to Emmaus, in Luke 24:13-32
  • To eleven disciples and others, in Luke 24:33-49
  • To ten apostles and others, with Thomas absent, in John 20:26-30
  • To seven apostles, in John 21:1-14
  • He was with the apostles at the Mount of Olives before his ascension, in Luke 24:50-52 and Acts 1:4-9
  • And right before he ascended he gave the great commission to his disciples—to make disciples of all nations, in Matthew 28:16-20 (234)

“Remember the Great Commission. It’s one of the three main things that God calls you to do as a Christian. Love Him, love His people, and make disciples of all nations.

Also, keep a note of these scriptures of Jesus’ appearances. You’ll need them one day to defend what you believe and also to share with other new believers that are struggling with doubts.”

 

Then what happened?

“What do you mean?” I asked.

“What happened after Jesus appeared to people after his Resurrection?”

I paused for a second. It’s getting late. Don’t think about the clock. These are amazing questions I thought to myself. This is what you want your son to talk about.

I refocused, and then continued.

Well, his disciples and followers were on fire. You have to remember, even Jesus’ own brother didn’t believe he was Lord until he resurrected himself. Then his brother James believed. And guess what happened to him, he was stoned to death after announcing that his brother was the Savior.

Ten of the eleven remaining disciples (the twelfth, Judas, left the pack when he betrayed Jesus) went on a mission to talk about Jesus to everyone they could. They were beaten, imprisoned, hated. But they didn’t stop, to the point of grisly deaths. (45)

  1. Andrew was crucified and tied to the cross instead of being nailed, so he would suffer longer. He lived for two days and preached to passersby.
  2. James (son of Zebedee) was beheaded.
  3. Philip was crucified.
  4. Bartholomew was crucified, one account claiming he was skinned alive and then beheaded.
  5. Thomas was killed by local religious authorities who speared him.
  6. Matthew was stabbed in the back by a swordsmen.
  7. Thaddaeus was crucified.
  8. Simon the Canaanite was crucified.
  9. Peter was crucified and as the story goes, asked to be hung upside down so that his death would not be seen as equal to Jesus.
  10. John was the only one of the original disciples that didn’t die a violent death.

Who do you know would do that today? I know I don’t have the guts. I’m afraid that if someone put a gun to my head and told me to recant my faith, I would in order to save my life for you and your sister and your mom. I really love Jesus, Gio. But I couldn’t do what those guys did back then.

For them to literally die for the sake of telling others about Jesus means they were convinced that what they saw was real. That would be like Jesus popping up in this room right now for us. Could you imagine what would happen to us? We would never again be afraid to tell people about him. We would devote the rest of our lives to it. We wouldn’t be afraid to die doing it either, because we would know what was on the other side.

You know what, after saying that I realize that’s actually how we need to be right now. As Christians we’re supposed to die to ourselves and be willing to put our lives on the line for him. I feel Jesus. I really do. But I’m also human. To get to that point, I would need to see him.

After I yawned again, “Alright that’s a lot for tonight. Your brain is going to explode.”

“Ok. I get what you’re saying about all of this dad. His disciples were on fire. The Resurrection was the main part of the entire story. Once that happened, people really started believing. But…”

Continue To Part 2….

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